Articles in “Getting” each other
Okay….we’re going to play the game of choice vs. not a choice…or if you will, nurture vs. nature. Because I’ve seen a lot of nonsense circulating the web of how “those people” “choose” to be gay. Or transgender. Or whatever.
If I paint a couple of white lines that the 68% can easily conform to, I will have at my disposal a powerful conforming force. But if the lines are white enough, thick enough, enforced enough, and I land out in the tails, I can even cease to be considered human. I could become Other.
In our TBLG community (yes, TBLG — let’s get the initials in the right order for once, shall we?) we really do want to “get” each other. It’s just that there are some places we, ourselves, cannot go. And that’s Okay. We just need to be very careful to be aware that our own orientation is not the only “right” orientation. We need to be very careful not to be mean.
On Transgender Day of Remembrance, let’s remember those who have lost their lives to suicide and murder, but let’s also remember — and celebrate, honor, love, and welcome — the living. Even if we don’t “get” them. There’s so many worthy, cool, and interesting transgender and genderqueer people with all kinds of lives and all kinds of interesting stories to tell. And not only stories about being transgender.